DISCUSSION GUIDELINES
Mindful Practice of Wise Speech
Typically, during our weekly meetings, we engage in Dharma Discussion, these discussions are different than ordinary conversations. This form of dialogue offers us an opportunity to connect with one another, exchange our personal experiences with spiritual practice, and delve deeper into the practical application of the Buddha’s teachings.
The purpose of these guidelines is to enable everyone to comfortably participate and gain from the discussions. These guidelines are supportive principles for our practice, not rigid rules.
Usually the host of the meeting will read an abbreviated version aloud before the Dharma discussion.
Discussion Guidelines
Speaking and listening can be a mindfulness practice. Try to practice mindfulness of body, speech, and mind during sharing
- Practice deep listening by listening with an attentive, open mind.
- Bring mindful attention to your own thoughts, body, and reactions, with the intention to come back to the present moment.
- We mindfully hold the intention of clarity, directness, and coherence, sharing comments with kindness, for both ourselves and others.
All that is shared is confidential
- Confidentiality secures the safety of the group.
- After the session, we refrain from speaking to a person about what they said in the group without asking for their permission first.
Speak from experience and avoid theoretical discussions
- In this way we stay on topic, and allow everyone an opportunity to speak.
If you choose, you may Indicate your intention to speak by bowing, and indicate you have finished speaking by bowing
- After you have bowed to speak you know you have the space to speak without interruption.
- This practice helps create a safe and harmonious environment.
If you choose, you may say your name before speaking
- This can be welcoming for newcomers and refresh other friends' memories.
Refrain from speaking a second time until everyone who wishes has had an opportunity to share
- Some Sangha members may need more time to be ready to speak.
- Be mindful of the length of your sharing in relation to the group size.
Practice taking a mindful breath after someone has shared, before sharing your own thoughts
- This gives you the opportunity to be fully mindful of your response to what was just said, your thoughts, and the group.